Life As We Know It

Relationships Problems

2011-04-14T03:22:00.005+08:00

Relationship Problems

Relationships are hard, complicated, difficult, emotional, heartbreaking, and anything else you want to call it. But at the end of the day, we revolve around them. Our lives revolve around LOVE.

WHAT'S LOVE?

It's just an emotion, it doesn't even really exist, does it? We can't look at it, we can't hold it, we can't see it! So, how can JUST an emotion have such a great impact in a person? Sounds stupid, doesn't it? But, as stupid it may sound, this is how we live our lives and this is how the world works.

Just the other day, I was watching the news, and there was a headline that literally shocked me! A man, in Melbourne, Australia; had killed his 4 year old daughter. He threw her off the highest bridge in Melbourne, JUST because he was losing the battle of her custody. This reminded me of one of those phrases you normally hear in those dramatic soup operas: "If I can't have you, nobody else can!". Until what extend, is a person really capable to harm somebody else, because of love? It's very scary! I am very sure, that not in your whole entire life-time, you would ever even imagined that, the person you once loved, got married to, and had a child with, would actually kill your innocent child over an adult dispute. I'm horrified!
So, I wonder... If this father really loved his child, why would he murder her? OR, did he really loved her that much, that maybe he thought she was in danger with his mom? OR, was he just angry with the decisions made in court, that he decided to hurt his ex-wife and kill their child?
As a mother, I can not think of ANY explanation for such action. But, I do wonder: What kind of LOVE is that?!

Now jumping to another example... I just got home from Butter Factory, I work there every Wednesday. And tonight, my friend and her boyfriend joined me for a while, to have a good time. Oh, but we did not end up having such a great time. Because they got into an argument. What about? Apparently, there was a girl that was trying to hit on my friend's boyfriend and he smiled at her and walked away. What's the problem? That he smiled at her. My friend got so pissed off! She told him to back off and walked away from him. Does this scene sound familiar to any other couples out there? I'm sure. Because it certainly sounds familiar to me. He didn't really do anything wrong; he didn't talk to her BUT he did smile. So, what does that mean? That he liked the fact that she was hitting on him? Or, was he just being friendly? We all know that men, don't really think about what's RIGHT to do (or what WE would like them to do). They act first and think second.
I know for sure, that I would have also reacted the same way as my friend did, but this time, I was not the one in the situation, I was looking at it from the outside. And, oh boy! Doesn't it all look so different! And that's when I realized it. Maybe, we (girls) tempt to just flip out too much on our men.
I couldn't believe (and I still can't believe) that I thought that!! I am a person that has TOO much attitude. And I'm aware of it. I do not let thing like this slip. I would argue about it.
But the argument was not over. We go outside of the club, and that's when things get too uncomfortable for me. I was caught in between my friend and her boyfriend arguing! Then, it happened. He tried to make an excuse for himself.
OKAY, LET'S STOP RIGHT HERE FOR A MINUTE!!
My friend is already pissed at him, and then he LIES about the situation. Let me just say something to all the men out there!!!!!!!!! THE WORSE THING YOU CAN IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS, IT'S LIE!!!!! You are already arguing about something she SAW! It's not something she HEARD, she SAW it! Why would you lie? He just made it worse! And so the argument continued and I just decided to come home. So, does my friend's boyfriend really loves her? Yes, he does. Then, why would he lie? Lying in a relationship it's not good. Whether is a big or a small lie. It affects the relationship, A LOT.
He was just trying to stop the argument and tried to find an easier way out. But, I don't think that men realize that there's no an easy way out when you are arguing with your girlfriend. He could have just admit what he had done and said sorry. That would have been IT.
This particular situation with my friend and her boyfriend, really made me think. I need to start making some changes, because I don't want to have these type of arguments anymore. I don't want to end up having a bad night, over something so small. Later on, my friend and her boyfriend will be okay. They will make up. The only result out of this, was just a bad night.

Relationships are filled with little arguments like this, and are they really worth it? No, they are not. So, why have them? I most certainly know that I have some personal changes to make.

My advice to other girls AND, especially to myself is: CHILL THE F*CK OUT!!!

I have made mistakes like this, but I know I don't want to make them anymore. I love my life and there's nothing I would like to change. I am very grateful for everything I have and for everyone that's in my life. From now on, I will show more appreciation, have more understanding and will try to be more patient.

2009-08-10T01:31:00.004+08:00

Someday (I will understand) By Britney Spears

Nothing seems to be the way
That it used to
Everything seems shallow
God give me truth
In me
And tell me somebody is watching
Over me
And that is all I'm praying is that

Someday I will understand
In God's whole plan
And what he's done to me
Oh but maybe
Someday I will breathe
And I'll finally see
I'll see it all in my baby

Don't you run too fast my dear
Why don't you stop?
Just stop and listen to your tears
They're all you've got
It's in you
You see somebody is watching
Over you
And that is all I'm praying is that

Someday you will understand
In God's whole plan
And what he does to you
Oh but maybe
Someday you will breathe
And you'll finally see
You'll see it all in your baby
You'll see it all in your baby

No moment
Will be more true
Than the moment
I look at you

It's in you
You see somebody is watching
Over you
And that is all I'm praying is that

Someday you will understand
In God's whole plan
And what he does to you
Oh but maybe
Someday you will breathe
And you'll finally see
You'll see it all in your baby
You'll see it all in your baby
You'll see it all in your baby
You'll see it all in your baby

From my heart to yours...

2009-08-09T06:35:00.004+08:00

Here I am, restless in my bed again.
Wondering if I ever cross your busy mind.
Wondering if the sight of your face will ever light up my eyes again.
I am afraid of losing you.
Afraid that I will never touch you again.
I miss the memories we had.
How we made love everyday.

After the bedroom light goes off,
And I’m left lying in the dark,
Thinking about your parting words,
And pondering the reasons why.

It is then, that in the dark silence
The flood of tears start to break,
For tears are the silent words
That a broken heart can’t express.

If in dreams I could still have you,
If in dreams I could still hold you,
If in dreams there could still just be me and you.

If in dreams your promises could be true,
If in dreams you didn't find someone new.
Then I won't live in reality if it means living without you...

If in dreams you would always stay,
If in dreams, beside you I still could lay,
If in dreams nothing could come our way,
Then I won't ask for reality if reality means pain...

If in dreams I could still feel your kiss,
If in dreams you would treasure our memories,
If in dreams it would be me that you need,
Then let me keep on dreaming if reality means tears...

If in dreams we could have what we had,
If in dreams we would never be apart,
Then in dreams I will live because reality hurts so bad...

If in dreams we could last a lifetime,
If in dreams I could turn back the hands of time,
Let me live in dreams, if reality is just all these.

2009-07-24T05:33:00.000+08:00

It's time to update my blog!!!

I'ma start writing on it more often, promise :)

Tomorrow is my birthday, another year of life...
And ima start it with this qoute for you all

"I hope your dreams take you... to the corners of your smiles, to the highest of your hopes, to the windows of your opportunities, and to the most special places your heart has ever known"

2008-09-07T21:06:00.000+08:00

Money

Money can buy a house, but not a home.
Money can buy a watch, but not time.
Money can buy a bed, but not dreams.
Money can buy a book, but not knowledge.
Money can pay a doctor, but it can't buy health.
Money can buy a business position, but not respect.
Money can buy blood, but not life.
Money can buy SEX, but not LOVE.

2008-08-26T20:50:00.000+08:00

I miss you... :(

2008-08-14T23:38:00.000+08:00

It's sad when people you know,
become people you knew.
When you can walk right pass someone,
like they were never a big part of your life.
How you used to be able to talk for hours, and now,
you can barely look at them.
It's sad how times can change.

2008-08-12T22:54:00.000+08:00

Dedicated to all my Superwoman friends. I lurbe you all <3>

Superwoman by Alicia Keys

Everywhere I'm turning
Nothing seems complete
I stand up and I'm searching
For the better part of me
I hang my head from sorrow
Slave to humanity
I wear it on my shoulders
Gotta find the strength in me

Cause I am a Superwoman
Yes I am
Yes she is
Still when I'm a mess
I still put on a vest
With an S on my chest
Oh yes
I'm a Superwoman

For all the mothers fighting
For better days to come
And all my women, all my women sitting here trying
To come home before the sun
And all my sisters
Coming together
Say yes
I will
Yes
I can

Cause I am a Superwoman
Yes I am
Yes she is
Still when I'm a mess
I still put on a vest
With an S on my chest
Oh yes
I'm a Superwoman

When I'm breaking down
And I can't be found
And I start to get weak
Cause no one knows
Me underneath these clothes
But I can fly We can fly, Oooohh

Cause I am a Superwoman
Yes I am
Yes she is
Still when I'm a mess
I still put on a vest
With an S on my chest
Oh yes
I'm a Superwoman

2008-07-10T01:40:00.000+08:00

We Were Born Guilty

I was born guilty,
guilty of being a woman,
guilty to the eyes of men,
guilty to the eyes of other women.

I was born a woman,
to love with all my heart,
to give more than what i can,
to care for everyone,
to give life.

I am guilty to the eyes of men,
for being what they can't have,
for being inferior to their eyes,
for being able to expect more of myself,
for being more than what we used to be.

I am guilty to other women,
for their son to love me,
for their husband to look at me,
for not being what they want me to be,
for being another woman.

We were born guilty,
because men made us this way,
because men digraced us from the beginning,
because men know we are capable of more,
because men can not accept competition,
because men created society and,
society made us guilty,
guilty of being born a woman.

2008-06-15T23:36:00.001+08:00

Bestfriend.

Arms are for hugging.

Boys are for kissing.

Sluts are for dissing.

And BESTFRIENDS are for

when the boy is kissing the slut

and all you really need is a HUG.

Love.

The most amazing feeling in life.

It can give you happiness and strength.

It can destroy in tiny little invisible pieces your heart,

But It can also make it revive.

Reflection of the day.

There are things in life you don't plan. Feelings you don't expect to feel. People you leave behind because they're not good enough to be in your future. There are things that are supposed to bring you together, but instead, they pull you apart. Friends that will disappoint you and friends that are always gonna be there for you. Experiences you will have to go through to understand the meaning of life, or to truly appreciate what you have got, instead of wishing for more you don't need. Family will always be there no matter what, they will support you, understand you, love you, care for you and they are the ones you can always lean on when everyone else seem to have forgotten about you. Pain, a feeling we always try to avoid, but it is always chasing us. Sometimes it comes so strong, you think it can't get worse. Love will always be in the air, sometimes it will hurt, devaste, destroy or ruin you, but at some point you will find that special someone somewhere waiting for you. Possibilities, there are billions of them in the world, you just have to be brave enough to catch one, hold on tight and do not let go.

Do not take someone for granted, hold every person close to your heart, you might wake up one day and realise you lost a diamond, while you were too busy collecting stones.

Do not take life so seriously, after all, nobody comes out of it alive.

2008-06-12T22:56:00.000+08:00

I'm selfish, Impatient, and a little insecure.

I make mistakes, I'm outta control,

and a times, hard to handle.

But if you cant handle me at my worst,

you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.

2008-06-08T18:45:00.000+08:00

I believe that everything happens for a reason.

People change so that you can learn to let go.

Things go wrong so you appreciate them,

because when they're right you believe less.

You eventually learn to trust no one but yourself.

And sometimes good things fall apart,

so better things can fall together.

Yalena

2008-06-04T08:47:00.000+08:00

Dear Yalena,

I want us to be friends until all our hairs are silver-gray and we have enough memories to drown a cruise ship. I have heard that one should be able to count ones true friends on ones fingers. I’ve often had delusions about the life-line of many of my friendships which I now call acquaintances. Sometimes thinking that they would each last forever. But realistically not all are meant to be and some simply not strong enough to weather whatever difficulties that occur. To me the importance of having many friends has just become less and less important as I’ve grown older and I’m no longer concerned with the number of friends I have but rather the quality of the friendships build. To me it doesn’t matter who came first and who I called my first best friend. What matters is who has stayed close to me through the thick and thin, who has stayed with me until the end. I think that a true friend is someone who is happy and proud of your accomplishments and will always share with your joys as well as your sorrows. This last year I have learned that distance is not a hindrance to a friendship if you really treasure it. It’s important that both keep an effort 2 keep in touch and update each other on what’s going on in eachotherz lives, no detail being insignificant. Rumor has it that you seldom find true friends but if your lucky enough to be blessed with just one or two hold on to them because duh they are hard to find. Therefore my beautiful thoughtful friend I’m holding onto u because until now I have never meet anyone that gets me or understands me like you do.
The whole point of having a blog I guess is so that people can catch up with your daily triumphs. Give them a little insight into the way your mind works and let them view your progress. Namely it’s for me to check up on you lol. I know you just had a bad day and we both know who is to blame but even if they don’t mean to emotionally tear us apart they often do so unknowingly. I know what your going through right now and you know my thoughts and I guess letting go of those nostalgic memories is sometimes easier said than done.

Last night, god knows why, I was thinking about how easy it is for kids to get along and play with each other without having to give a shit about who the other person is, as long as they function enough to play. Sometimes I wish that on myself only to simplify things. But then there would be no great appreciation for real friendship, basically what I’m saying is that I’m glad that your not always functioning like the other kids which makes you special in my book. You’re my angel on earth and I love you all the way to the moon.

love u always xxxx Bettina